Some avoid the topic all together, and others give the impression that sex is somehow inherently degrading and tainted.
Abstinence before marriage, and fidelity within marriage — refraining from sex with someone other than your husband or wife — is just one of those basic rules that keeps you inside the Christian community. Practicing premarital chastity is also important because it safeguards and protects marital sex — that is, it protects us, so that if and when we do get married, we are able to experience sex as God intended it to be. Think about the TV shows or movies you've seen, in which people have premarital sex. It is almost always portrayed as being — because, almost by definition, it is part of a relationship that is itself not wholly stable.Instead, God has a positive view of sex and also specific guidelines about how to express your sexuality. Dating leads to intimacy but not necessarily commitment. It often mistakes a physical relationship for love.God is not a killjoy—his guidelines for your sexuality are for your help, protection, and good. It isolates a couple from other vital relationships.As you are aware, there really is a major difference between the world’s philosophy about dating and the Christian approach.The apostle Paul summed up the Christian attitude when he said: Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit, but in humility consider others better than yourselves.You see the magazines, TV shows, and movies that tell you how you’re young, and you should date a lot of people before you get married.